Is it really so bad for me to ask not to be called a freak, looked at with disgust, and compared to a pedophile?
I would have thought that a person with a disability would be more understanding of how fucking hurtful it is to have someone dismiss your entire existence.
I never hurt anyone. I don’t deserve to be told that the attraction that I have, that I have always behaved responsibly with, is reason for me to be hated.
How dare you tell me that me defending myself is the equivalent of a guy complaining that a woman he harassed got upset with him?
Well, I’m not going anywhere. I’m here to say that I have devoteeism and I AM NOT SICK.
I am very sorry for the behavior of devs who have harassed, stalked, and frightened people with disabilities. I have no intention of defending them.
All I asked was that I not be thrown into the fire with them. How can you condemn an entire group of people? How can you say “people who are attracted to disability are sick and need to be in therapy”? (For the record, I am in therapy. My therapist doesn’t think there’s anything wrong with me.)
I was abused by a boyfriend who was disabled. I’ve had many frightening and creepy messages from men who have disabilities.
I did not use those experiences to tell everyone how vile and disgusting all people with disabilities are.
I’m a human being. I have a heart. I have compassion, love, and conviction. I’m not here to say that your experience isn’t valid. You should hate the scumbags who treated you so poorly. Why must that hate take the form of “It’s because they are attracted to disability that they are such creeps”? No it’s not! It’s because they’re fucking creeps.
You have no idea the pain and struggle that I’ve been through because of being a devotee. I cannot dismiss your experience and you cannot dismiss mine. You think you’re the only one who suffers?
Thank you for spreading hatred. For increasing the disharmony of this world. For providing another space where a young dev can stumble across vitriol encouraging him or her to hate himself, to give up on her life.
To attack those who hurt you and put them in their place does not require condemning my existence.
I don’t exist because of you. I am not a response to disability. I just…am. I didn’t ask to have this attraction. No amount of therapy or self-hatred or any other course of action has caused it to disappear. I didn’t choose this. But I do behave in a responsible manner. Because I have always believed that we as human beings are a family and we need to show care and respect to each other because you have no idea what another is suffering through.
Don’t scoff at me and tell me that my suffering isn’t real. It’s every bit as real as yours.
But then, I don’t need your permission to exist. I am as I am and I will continue to be whether you like it or not.